Thursday, October 30, 2008

Openness

How open should one be with:

A) Strangers

B) Acquaintances

C) Friends

D) Family

E) Extended family

9 comments:

  1. hmm I'll have to think about that. I hope you don't mind I took your blog ad off of Jessica's site. I'm collecting a bunch and sticking them on my page...

    Have a good weekend!

    Natalie~

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  2. Lizzie,
    That is an interesting question. It depends on what you mean by "open".

    While lots of people think I am open with them. I am really only "open" with very few people, I could easily count them on one hand. I hope that makes sense. If not go ahead ignore the whole comment:P

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  3. As open as you feel like being.

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  4. A)Don't be open with strangers unless you have a special reason like sharing the gospel with them.
    B)Not very open with people you don't know very well. You can't trust them.
    C)It depends on the kinds of friends. Definitely be open with close and old friends. Newer friends might not be ready to take the relationship to that next level of openness.
    D)Wide open.
    E)It's up to you. But no lying.


    Just my two cents. :)

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  5. "Open" to me means sharing part of your heart.

    a. Nope, never- glimpses of my heart are never that casual. If they percieve those things, then good for them.

    b. I actually find it easier to "spill my guts" about intensely painful things to aquaintances because they aren't biased. Most of them I don't know for long after that.

    c. Usually get surface stuff until they've stuck it out long enough to be able to handle deeper knowledge.

    d. They get pretty deep. Usually it is a time and place kind of thing.

    e. Never- they don't care that much, so I don't share that much.

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  6. Why would you want to be open with someone?

    Just kidding.

    Mostly.



    P.S. I think that said something huge about my personality.

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  7. It's Ok Margaret. We all know you are going to change your mind once you are married:)

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  9. I ditto everything Ellie said. I've been taught there are three levels of conversation (and relationship, now that I come to think of it); the first is smalltalk with the guy you meet in the subway, "Do you know what the weather's going to be like tomorrow?", that sort of stuff (though I never met a New Yorker who wanted to discuss anything with a total stranger). The second is a little deeper, where you share details about your life, but nothing too personal. The third is the most intense, like, "Could you pray for me, my grandma just died." I have a very few third-level relationships, but tons of second and first. You can be as open as you want with whomever you want; but I only share third-level things with third-level friends.
    ;0)

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Muse with me. Please?